For the Anti-marriage, Prop. 8 Ruling Doesn't Matter

What a great Wednesday even if it’s a short-lived feeling. Despite news headlines, Facebook updates, and tweets claiming that Prop. 8 was overturned, the proposition is not overturned, just yet.

Chief U.S District Court Judge Vaughn Walker ruling yesterday that Prop. 8 is unconstitutional marks a huge step forward in the struggle for the gay community. Surprisingly, nominated by George W. Bush and gay himself, Walker gave something back to all the gay people, allies, and the Mormon Church in what I call “round two.” What this means is efforts to appeal the decision are already underway. After months and months of people fighting, crying, spending millions, talking shit, coming out of the closet of being gay or homophobic, we have finally arrived at yet another milestone in this battle. And believe me, round two is going to be the gay community's chance to step their game up, because I can feel the homophobes gearing up.

I don't know if I should feel happy. I’m kind of a pessimist when it comes to all this Prop. 8-movement business: To me, I’m fighting for equality, not marriage. But it feels good to know that all the homophobes I encountered while Prop. 8 was law got a little kick in the ass today. I’m not really into marriage and the bureaucracy, politics of people’s individual "love" and "relationships" either.

Policy, government court rulings, propositions bore me. My girlfriend loves that stuff. She tells me it’s, "everything and everywhere," and that’s fine for her. I told her this morning before the ruling was announced that I didn't really care about the ruling Wednesday, because I’ve experiences prejudice from both sides of Prop. 8 -- those who didn't like my skin color and those who didn't like my sexual orientation. I’m getting tired of finding myself fighting against everything. I think all I really care about is equality, not institutional approval. So, I had to ask her what she thought. Her long rants about policy and government make me analyze my stance a little more. It’s probably one of the things that kind of makes sense to me about all this Prop. 8 movement.

Over a Google chat while both reading about yesterday’s news, she said, "I’m not so in with the marriage thing. Marriage is a conservative Christian value. It’s not something that was such in a high regard in my traditional Native culture. It was okay to be single and still feel good about yourself. Why just marriage? It just creates another set of haves and have-nots.